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Sounds like you have been in the habit of always being there when your children need you ! But what happens when you are gone ? There is going to come a time when you won't be there, to help your daughter. It is time to hand out some tough love.

First I would tell her that she has to learn to support herself, even if she is in a wheelchair, others are out there in worse shape then she is and work everyday, pay their own bills, and deal with their life.

She can learn to even when you are gone, if she is left a lot of money like before if she doesn't learn to manage it, someone else will have to support her when she goes through anything you leave her.

Its possible you could help her with some schooling, so she can learn to work in a certain area. People including me , live with fibromalygia every day and still manage to work. I know because I'm in a wheelchair and still work. She can too, she is still young enough to learn.

Don't allow her to hurt herself any longer with your help. You are enabling her to live this way. If she hangs up on her, let her know the money will be cut off to pay her bills until she complies with what needs to happen.

She will need to go to classes to learn how to handle money. She will need to either go to school to work towards getting a job, and possibly find a part-time job to help to pay her own bills.

Do not let her, or your other children use you any longer, make them stand on their own two feet. We as parents can only do so much for our children, then we need them to help themselves.

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